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The Truth about The Law of Attraction

I’m sure all of you know of Albert Einstein. His formula E=MC (2) basically means the world is made up of energy. That means that everything is moving all the time. When you look at you hand, it looks solid, but it is really a mass of fast moving molecules and so is every thing else in the universe. Everything in this universe is energy and everything is moving. The law of attraction says that you will attract to you a match for your energy, or your vibration. If you are always thinking negative thoughts, your vibration will be negative and you will attract a match for that vibration. This is the same for positive thoughts.

It is only thought that PERMEATES all time and space. Your thoughts create your feelings and your feelings set up an energy frequency that go out into the universe and find a match for that frequency. In the Bible it says, “As a man thinketh in his heart, so he is”.

The first step in understanding the Law of Attraction is to ASK. Several years ago I was going through a difficult time in my life when I needed to make some changes and I had a good friend say to me, “Do you know how to get what you want?”  I looked at her and said, “Tell me”. “Ask, she said, you have to ask for what you want”.

Do you remember when you were little – a genie would pop out of a bottle – I think it was Aladdin - and he would say, “Your wish is my command”. Also, “Ask and it shall be given” and “To him who knocks, the door is open.”

How many of us go into a restaurant and order something off the menu and expect to get exactly what we want? This is no different. Put in your order. Ask for what you want.  Ask yourself, “What do I truly want?” Focus on what you want, not what you don’t want. The universe is very literal so write it out on a piece of paper and write it down in present tense.

Instead of saying “I hope one day to have a good relationship” or “I don’t want to have an abusive relationship” (the energy you are sending out is bad relationship energy) say instead, “I deserve to be in a healthy, loving relationship with a partner who loves me unconditionally”. If you are in debt, instead of focusing on getting out of debt, instead say, "I am financially independent." Say what you want in the present tense, as though you already have it. Feel like you have it and believe it is possible. Remember, we create from the inside out.

Now once we realize how this law of attraction works, we need to be vigilant and bring to light all the underlying feelings that are still in darkness. What is in darkness always comes to light sooner or later so we might as well invite the demons in. Not running from the demons gets rid of the incongruity between what we think we are creating and what we are really creating.  Remember, we attract by how we really feel – not what we wish or hope for. If at the deepest core of your being you do not feel that you deserve to be financially free, or truly loved, it will not happen.  It is often the sub-text that creates, the thoughts and feelings that we have not yet allowed to come to consciousness.  Acceptance of all our feelings creates a powerful vibration that sends a strong, clear message to the universe.

• How do we create?  If the first step in creating your world is to ask for what you want, the next step is that the universe answers.  This takes time. Do not be impatient. Put in the right ingredients but do not mess with the outcome. You are in charge of the ingredients but not the outcome – that is the universe’s job. The universe has a way of putting together all the pieces and delivering in a way you can’t even imagine. Once again – don’t be impatient. Here you are attempting to change a lifetime of dysfunction – it takes a little bit of time. When you plant a seed, fruit falls from the tree.

• You don’t need to see the whole picture all at once to know things are changing. For example, you are able to drive 3000 miles from Florida to California even though the headlights on the car only light the way for 200 feet.

• OK.  Next, you have to be able to RECEIVE. You have to now bring yourself into alignment with what you are asking for. Remember the way you feel is everything. If you cannot feel joy how can you bring joy into your life? By the very same token, if you focus on hate, you will attract that, and if you focus on anger, your life will be filled with that emotion.

• And most importantly, what can you do if you are feeling negative? There is nothing better than GRATITUDE to create a positive feeling.  Ask yourself, "What am I grateful for? Just think of one thing:  a good friend, good health, a loving child, a supportive parent, a place to live, a great pet.  And when you think of what you are grateful for, you immediately get a feeling. And that feeling goes out into the universe and finds an match for  its vibration. 

The Truth About The Law of Attraction

For five years on NBC’s DAYTIME I did a segment called “Reality Check”….. Every week I would take live call-ins and deal with viewer’s issues. Regardless of the problem, the dynamic was always the same when people felt stuck. Whether it’s an emotionally abusive relationship, hating your job, having issues with your boss, or being in debt, when people feel stuck, i.e., keep doing the same things that don’t work again and again, they usually feel victimized. They ask me, "Why is all this happening to me?", and I answer, because what happened to me didn’t happen to you. We all have our stuff and no one’s stuff is any better or worse than anyone else’s. It’s just that mine is mine and yours is yours. If it happened to you, it belongs to you, so you might as well accept full responsibility for it even though sometimes you might not be able to fully understand it.

When you refuse to take full responsibility for what is happening to you, you will feel victimized. And in feeling victimized, you literally give your power away.  So, the reason you need to take full responsibility for where you are at right this moment, not 50% responsibility, not 90%, but 100%, is because when you take 100% responsibility for being here now, in that same instant, you immediately take your power back and know you also have full power to create the life you want. The same way you have created this life is the exact way you can create the life you want, i.e., if you are willing to do things differently.

We all know that when our life does not work and we keep doing the same things we have always done we will get the same results. Remember, time does nothing put pass. It is not positive or negative but a neutral backdrop on which we live our lives. Over time, things become more of what they already are:  things that are good become better and things that are bad become worse.

Our life is like a big jet plane that has all this propulsion behind it.  It is careening in a direction and has a life of its own. That’s what got us here, but that’s not where we have to stay.

You have the ability to turn that big plane around. The same amount of energy that got you here is the same energy that is capable of taking you in a new direction. It might take a little time to turn the jet around, but when it turns, it has just as much propulsion going in a new direction.

How do we change what doesn’t work? The quickest way I know is to change your thoughts. You have the ability to change the way you feel and in the process change the way your life will unfold, simply by changing your thoughts. You create your world, moment by moment, by what you think and what you feel. Your thoughts create your feelings and your feelings create your life.

For example, when you are combing your hair and you look in the mirror and your hair is out of place, you do not go and comb the mirror.  Why?  It's because the mirror is a REFLECTION, not the real thing.  It's the same way with the world.  The world is a reflection.  You create the world from the inside out, not the other way. We mistakenly think the physical world is what determines our state of mind but it is really the opposite. Our thoughts create the physical world.

I want to talk to you for a moment about quantum physics. All it means is that the universe is governed by universal laws and these laws work all the time.  For example, if I drop a pen, it will always fall downward toward the floor.  Gravity always works.  Werner Von Braun, the father of space travel, said the laws of the universe are so precise, you can figure out how to land a space craft at precisely the correct moment.

Another law of the universe that always works is the Law of Attraction. I’m sure all you by this time have heard of “The Secret”.  It was on Oprah and she has done two shows on The Law of Attraction. In simple terms, we attract to us what we think, what we feel.  In other words, we attract to us a match for our vibration. As we enter a room, our energy goes in before us. Just like you can feel someone else’s energy is the same way they can feel yours.

Your attraction meter is your feelings. Your inner voice speaks to you through your feelings. It says keep going when you are positive and your feelings are aligned with what you want, and when you are negative, and your feelings are not aligned with what you want, it says stop.

The law of attraction is:

Like attracts like.

Birds of a feather flock together.

Whatever you want, wants you.

What you sew, you reap.

What you put out you get back.

What goes around, comes around. (To Be Continued)

What Is Feng Shui Anyway?

Marketing executives at Bloomingdales in New York consult regularly with a Feng Shui (Rhymes with young and pronounced foung - schway ) expert.   They know what people in China and Hong Kong have known for a long time - that good Feng Shui produces good business along with success, wealth, good health, loving relationships, and harmonious environments.

Literally translated Feng Shui means “wind and water” and is the ancient art and science of placement. Feng Shui is used to analyze built and natural environments and to determine the Chi or life energy in a place.

Understanding Chi or universal energy is the key to understanding Feng Shui. Chi is the unifying principle of energy and the underlying force that links man to all things in this world and to all realms of existence. This is not a world of inanimate forms but a living vibrant energy that pulsates at different speeds creating this universe. It is the air we breathe, the spirit that inhabits the body, the force of a river, the cry of a baby, the frightened vibration when we’re scared, a different vibration when we love. To create a space that is conducive to the accumulation and flow of good Chi is the ultimate goal of Feng Shui.

When we know all things are connected, we know home Chi or business Chi can affect our personal Chi. We may think our business life is separate from our personal life but to the universe, energy does not distinguish between one thing and another - it simply flows and readily adapts to the situation at hand. A home environment that is peaceful and harmonious will be filled with good Chi and that vibration will be transferred to all other areas of a person’s life.

Simple solutions such as moving a bed catty-corner to the door so as not to be startled, or placing a plant in front of a pointed furniture corner (piercing arrow) to diffuse the harsh energy are some of Feng Shui’s cures. Sometimes, simply the sound of wind Chimes, strategically placed, can totally alter a room’s vibration. When we open to the way things feel, we can immediately tell the difference.

When I had a gallery many years ago in Ybor City, Florida, I knew I wanted the space Feng Shui’d. As a gallery-warming gift, a family member sent a Feng Shui consultant to the gallery. After evaluating the space for energy flow or good Chi, she suggested several cures to get the energy moving in the right direction.

In traditional Feng Shui, if a building was found to be facing in the wrong direction or a doorway was located in an inauspicious spot, the Feng Shui Master would instruct the homeowner to tear the house down and start all over again. He listened to the Master and did this or he would never get rid of his bad luck.

The Black Hat School of Feng Shui is responsible for a less drastic approach that has evolved over many, many years. In 1980, Professor Lin Yun of Berkeley, California introduced Black Hat Feng Shui to the West. An evolving system of Tibetan, Eastern Indian, and Chinese spiritual methods along with folk, cultural, and Shaman practices and remedies, Black Hat Feng Shui became practical as well as spiritual.

At the core of this system is “cures” or methods to fix the offending bad Chi - rather than tear the house down there were now other available options. These fixes or “cures” are Feng Shui in action, the heart of Feng Shui.   A Feng Shui Master uses these cures to transform the energy from bad Chi to good Chi. Using LIGHT ( mirrors, crystals ), SOUND ( wind chimes, bells ), LIFEFORCE ( plants, fish tanks ), MOVING OBJECTS ( mobile, windmill, water fountain ), HEAVY OBJECTS ( statue, stones ), ELECTRICALLY POWERED OBJECTS ( TV, stereo ), COLOR, FRAGRANCE,TOUCH,BAMBOO FLUTES, and OTHER ( beaded curtain), the Feng Shui Master changes the flow of Chi. He knows these cures are not just about using a mirror or a chime but a conscious choice to change the energy.

Since each cure is designed for a specific purpose, the energy requirements for each space differ. For example, a bedroom would not have the same energy needs as a gallery and one art gallery would be different than another.

My art gallery was narrow rather than wide, the door was off to the side rather than directly in front, there were oblong jewelry counters, square pedestals, and large heavy pieces of sculpture. The front part of the gallery went up three floors in the front when you first walked in and half way back, the ceiling dropped to ten feet. There needed to be space for an office but to close it in would have cut the space in half.

Without giving away any Feng Shui cures ( keeping the secret is part of the ritual ), the task at hand was to create a space that was warm, inviting, and encouraged people to move throughout the entire space unobstructed. An ideal movement is to meander effortlessly in a gently curving fashion - remember straight lines are rarely found in the natural world. When energy moves in this healthy way, people feel relaxed and invest time in exploring a new environment. This seems like a simple enough concept yet how many times have we walked into a space only to turn around and leave a second later? It simply doesn’t feel good! I have learned (over many years!) that business is not just about stuff for sale but the way a person feels when they walk into your space. I heard over and over again, “It really feels good in this gallery” from people who have never heard of Feng Shui.

And that, once again, is because Chi is in us all and without intellectually knowing anything about Feng Shui we can feel when a place is inviting, warm, and harmonious. It is a place we like to go: it makes us feel good about ourselves.

Whether for home or business, Feng Shui creates good Chi that is appropriate to that environment. People who love and work in such an environment feel more energetic, creative, loving and balanced; as a result, they increase their potential for social and financial success as well as personal harmony.

What U Are Seeking is Also Seeking U (continued)

• How do we create?  If the first step in creating your world is to ask for what you want, the next step is that the universe answers.  This takes time.  Do not be impatient.  Put in the right ingredients but do not mess with the outcome.  You are in charge of the ingredients but not the outcome – that is the universe’s job.  The universe has a way of putting together all the pieces and delivering in a way you can’t even imagine.  Once again – don’t be impatient. Here you are attempting to change a lifetime of dysfunction – it takes a little bit of time.  When you plant a seed, fruit falls from the tree. 

• You don’t need to see the whole picture all at once to know things are changing.  For example, you are able to drive 3000 miles from Florida to California even though the headlights on the car only light the way for 200 feet.

• OK.  Next, you have to be able to RECEIVE.  You have to now bring yourself into alignment with what you are asking for.  Remember the way you feel is everything.  If you cannot feel joy how can you bring joy into your life?  By the very same token, if you focus on hate, you will attract that, and if you focus on anger, your life will be filled with that emotion.

• And most importantly, what can you do if you are feeling negative?  There is nothing better than GRATITUDE to create a positive feeling.  Ask yourself, "What am I grateful for?  Just think of one thing:  a good friend, good health, a loving child, a supportive parent, a place to live, a great pet.  And when you think of what you are grateful for, you immediately get a feeling.  And that feeling goes out into the universe and finds an match for  its vibration. 

What U Are Seeking is Also Seeking U (continued)

It is only thought that PERMEATES all time and space.  Your thoughts create your feelings and your feelings set up an energy frequency that go out into the universe and find a match for that frequency.  In the Bible it says, “As a man thinketh in his heart, so he is”.

The first step in understanding the Law of Attraction is to ASK.  Several years ago I was going through a difficult time in my life when I needed to make some changes and I had a good friend say to me, “Do you know how to get what you want?”  I looked at her and said, “Tell me”.  “Ask, she said, you have to ask for what you want”. 

Do you remember when you were little – a genie would pop out of a bottle – I think it was Aladdin - and he would say, “Your wish is my command”.   Also, “Ask and it shall be given” and “To him who knocks, the door is open.”

How many of us go into a restaurant and order something off the menu and expect to get exactly what we want?  This is no different.  Put in your order.  Ask for what you want.  Ask yourself, “What do I truly want?”   Focus on what you want, not what you don’t want.  The universe is very literal so write it out on a piece of paper and write it down in present tense. 

Instead of saying “I hope one day to have a good relationship” or “I don’t want to have an abusive relationship” (the energy you are sending out is bad relationship energy) say instead, “I deserve to be in a healthy, loving relationship with a partner who loves me unconditionally”.  If you are in debt, instead of focusing on getting out of debt, instead say, "I am financially independent."  Say what you want in the present tense, as though you already have it.  Feel like you have it and believe it is possible.  Remember, we create from the inside out.

Now once we realize how this law of attraction works, we need to be vigilant and bring to light all the underlying feelings that are still in darkness. What is in darkness always comes to light sooner or later so we might as well invite the demons in.  Not running from the demons gets rid of the incongruity between what we think we are creating and what we are really creating.  Remember, we attract by how we really feel – not what we wish or hope for.  If at the deepest core of your being you do not feel that you deserve to be financially free, or truly loved, it will not happen.  It is often the sub-text that creates, the thoughts and feelings that we have not yet allowed to come to consciousness.  Acceptance of all our feelings creates a powerful vibration that sends a strong, clear message to the universe.      

What U Are Seeking is Also Seeking U (continued)

I want to talk to you for a moment about quantum physics.  All it means is that the universe is governed by universal laws and these laws work all the time.  For example, if I drop a pen, it will always fall downward toward the floor.  Gravity always works.  Werner Von Braun, the father of space travel, said the laws of the universe are so precise, you can figure out how to land a space craft at precisely the correct moment.

Another law of the universe that always works is the Law of Attraction. I’m sure all you by this time have heard of “The Secret”.  It was on Oprah and she has done two shows on The Law of Attraction.  In simple terms, we attract to us what we think, what we feel.  In other words, we attract to us a match for our vibration.  As we enter a room, our energy goes in before us.  Just like you can feel someone else’s energy is the same way they can feel yours.

 

Your attraction meter is your feelings.  Your inner voice speaks to you through your feelings.  It says keep going when you are positive and your feelings are aligned with what you want, and when you are negative, and your feelings are not aligned with what you want, it says stop. 

The law of attraction is:

Like attracts like.

Birds of a feather flock together.

Whatever you want, wants you.

What you sew, you reap.

What you put out you get back.

What goes around, comes around.

I’m sure all of you know of Albert Einstein.  His formula E=MC (2) basically means the world is made up of energy.  That means that everything is moving all the time.  When you look at you hand, it looks solid, but it is really a mass of fast moving molecules and so is every thing else in the universe.  Everything in this universe is energy and everything is moving.  The law of attraction says that you will attract to you a match for your energy, or your vibration.  If you are always thinking negative thoughts, your vibration will be negative and you will attract a match for that vibration.  This is the same for positive thoughts. (to be continued) 

What U Are Seeking is Also Seeking U (continued)

Our life is like a big jet plane that has all this propulsion behind it.  It is careening in a direction and has a life of its own. That’s what got us here, but that’s not where we have to stay.

You have the ability to turn that big plane around.  The same amount of energy that got you here is the same energy that is capable of taking you in a new direction.  It might take a little time to turn the jet around, but when it turns, it has just as much propulsion going in a new direction.

How do we change what doesn’t work?  The quickest way I know is to change your thoughts.  You have the ability to change the way you feel and in the process change the way your life will unfold, simply by changing your thoughts.  You create your world, moment by moment, by what you think and what you feel.  Your thoughts create your feelings and your feelings create your life.

For example, when you are combing your hair and you look in the mirror and your hair is out of place, you do not go and comb the mirror.  Why?  It's because the mirror is a REFLECTION, not the real thing.  It's the same way with the world.  The world is a reflection.  You create the world from the inside out, not the other way.  We mistakenly think the physical world is what determines our state of mind but it is really the opposite.  Our thoughts create the physical world. (to be continued)

What U Are Seeking is Also Seeking U

For that last five years on NBC’s DAYTIME I did a segment called “Reality Check”…..  Every week I would take live call-ins and deal with viewer’s issues.  Regardless of the problem, the dynamic was always the same when people felt stuck. Whether it’s an emotionally abusive relationship, hating your job, having issues with your boss, or being in debt, when people feel stuck, i.e., keep doing the same things that don’t work again and again, they usually feel victimized.  They ask me, "Why is all this happening to me?", and I answer, because what happened to me didn’t happen to you.  We all have our stuff and no one’s stuff is any better or worse than anyone else’s.  It’s just that mine is mine and yours is yours.  If it happened to you, it belongs to you, so you might as well accept full responsibility for it even though sometimes you might not be able to fully understand it. 

When you refuse to take full responsibility for what is happening to you, you will feel victimized. And in feeling victimized, you literally give your power away.  So, the reason you need to take full responsibility for where you are at right this moment, not 50% responsibility, not 90%, but 100%, is because when you take 100% responsibility for being here now, in that same instant, you immediately take your power back and know you also have full power to create the life you want.  The same way you have created this life is the exact way you can create the life you want, i.e., if you are willing to do things differently.

We all know that when our life does not work and we keep doing the same things we have always done we will get the same results.  Remember, time does nothing put pass.  It is not positive or negative but a neutral backdrop on which we live our lives.   Over time, things become more of what they already are:  things that are good become better and things that are bad become worse.  (to be continued)