Do You Know The #1 Problem in Marriage and Divorce?

Do you know the number #1 problem in marriage and the number #1 problem of
divorce? If you said "money" you'd be right. If you're constantly arguing about money - how it's spent, how much is spent and who's spending it - learn why in all good marriages there are mutually defined financial guidelines.

1 Discuss financial issues and set boundaries. Be accountable.
∙ Both partners need to know and be accountable for what they have and what
is being spent.
∙ If one partner controls the money, the balance of power in the relationship will
always be a skewed.
∙ The proper time for this discussion is at the beginning of a relationship when
funds are being co-mingled.

2 Asking for money is demeaning. Everyone needs to have his/her own
money,regardless of the amount.
∙ Set up the relationship so both
partners have access to their own money eventhough funds are
co-mingled.
∙ It is very demeaning for one partner to ask another for money
all the time.
This does not mean that big financial decisions are not discussed and jointly
decided, but rather, within an agreed upon budget,
each person can have access to money and make financial decisions on
theirown.

3 Don't spend more money than you can afford - it depletes your
energy.
∙ Money is green energy. If you spend more than you have, you will
depleteyour energy and spend your time worrying how to borrow from Peter to pay
Paul.
∙ Except for sex, money ranks right up there with arguments and
frustration.
∙ It is important for both partners to know how much you have, how much you
can spend, and how much you want to save, and to follow an agreed uponplan.

4 Be honest - Don't hide your purchases or lie about how much you have
spent.
∙ Nothing is worse than lying about purchases - it always catches up. Speak upand be accountable.
∙ Now is the time to be PART of the plan and take financial responsibility.
∙ If need be, ask your partner to sit down and explain the finances to you.
∙ How much do you owe on your house? Your car? How much debt do you
have? What pieces of property do you own? Do you have a 401K? Is there a
pension fund? How much will you be getting from social security?

5 Be open - Share all financial information with your partner.
∙ If your partner is not willing to share with you all your financial information, itis your responsibility to get it. My suggestion is that you do.

 

 

Comments

[Ismael Kennedy]

You're right about that. Money can be the cause of misunderstanding most of the time, especially when there were things bought that were not planned at all. A good solution here is to talk about financial matters beforehand. For example, separate your family expenses between you and your husband, so that you won't be arguing about this in the long run.

[Good Relationship With Marguns]

For a number of Orlando people in this age group, it's a financial issue. A woman could lose her pension if she remarries. It is just too costly. So even though they may feel they are not behaving appropriately, people feel they don't have choices."

[Montgomery County Child Custody]

Since it is well documented that issues over money are the number 1 cause of divorce, it is not surprising that poverty wrecks havoc on marriages.

[Taimi Kaitala]

Money is really one of the main reason which lead to a people divorce and also on misunderstanding that some couple having a hard time to fix.Well for me it is still a matter of love if you both love each other well money is just a thing.

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