It's hard to be human and not have relationships. Relationships are connections and whether they are healthy or dysfunctional they remind us again and again of what it is to be human.
We often think we can work on relationships, but relationships are simply the result of two people connecting and the energy that flows between them. So if your relationship is not what you would like it to be, the only thing you can work on is yourself.
Having good relationships is an art and if you do not know the proper ingredients to put into a relationship, you will not have good ones. Most people start a relationship "hoping" all will go well and then are surprised when it doesn't. That's because if you do not know what you want to create, you end up with whatever the universe throws at you. For example, when you go into a restaurant you don't just say "I'm hungry - Give me whatever you have." You ask for something specific. You say, "I want french fries well-done and a hamburger medium rare." And when the food comes and it is not what you ordered, you send it back. This is what needs to happen when you are creating a relationship.
Nothing is more fulfilling than relationships that have reciprocity. I do not mean tit for tat but rather in the interchange, both parties feel they are giving and getting what they need. This manifests as relationships that are respectful, caring and kind. You cannot have a loving relationship unless you are loving. If you are keeping score, waiting for the other person to do it first, protecting yourself by keeping your heart closed, you will never have open loving relationships where you feel valued and cherished.
When you feel resentful in a relationship, that's because there is no reciprocity. Resentment is really anger and anger is sadness turned upside down. We are sad when our relationships are lacking for we all want so much to love and be loved. Feeling resentful needs to be our barometer; an inner meter that lets us know we need to fine tune or risk closing our heart.
When you stay in relationships that do not nourish your soul, you pay a high price and the cost of that is your spirit, your authenticity, your openness. You cannot love unless your heart is open. Remember, a closed heart affects every part of life, not just your immediate relationship. If you close your heart to pain, you also close it to joy, to life. Only when you know how to take care of yourself (same as loving yourself), only then can you create healthy relationships.
We often think we can work on relationships, but relationships are simply the result of two people connecting and the energy that flows between them. So if your relationship is not what you would like it to be, the only thing you can work on is yourself.
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