Nothing is more important and says more about you than keeping your word. The words that come out of your mouth have power and the ability to create your world. When you say something, you need to know those words form the foundation and connection between you and the person you are speaking to; if they are true, the connection gets stronger but if they are untrue, the connection weakens.
The words you choose are directly linked to your character, so I listen very carefully when someone speaks to me. I want to know who this person is and if I can count on what I am hearing. Do his words match his actions or is he just telling me what he thinks I want to hear?
Trusting another does not happen easily so matching your word to your deed goes a long way in building a bond. When you knowingly disregard what you have said to another, you immediately break that trust. Over time, this will not heal, and causes much anger and resentment.
Every time you do not do what you say you are going to do, you betray yourself. Nothing is worse than when you know you are a sham. The incongruence that comes from saying one thing and doing another takes away your self-respect and self-esteem. Liking yourself is the result of knowing you can be counted on - to yourself as well as others - and that you are solid, i.e., not willing to abandon your word if the moment suits you.
Think about what you are saying. No one is twisting your arm to say one thing or another; this is your choice. Stop chatting without being aware of what you are saying. Be conscious of what comes out of your mouth. Stand behind your words. Know that when you say something, you mean it and that someone can count on you!
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