Syncing Up Body and Spirit

If you struggling with weight and body image issues, understand why it important to not be obsessive but still like how you look AND be comfortable in your own skin.

1. You are a whole person – inside and outside need to match up.

• Everyone has parts of his/her body they don't like and wish were different.
• How you feel on the inside usually matches how you look on the outside.
• Oftentimes, we try and cut and paste our life, pretending the inside doesn't matter, fixing up the outside,  and end up feeling out of sync and confused.

2. If you are making excuses for not feeling good, you need to stop.

• You have free will and can change what doesn’t work for you.
• This is self-explanatory. Get cracking.
• I am not taking about being an exercise fanatic, or being pre-occupied with how you look; I am talking about being pleased about walking around as you.

3. Your body is your house.

• You need to feel comfortable wherever you are.
• Getting dressed, going out, do you feel comfortable in your skin?
• The world’s reaction to us is nothing more than a reflection of who we are. If you are not pleased with your Self, the world will reflect that back to you.

4. The world gives us feedback – do you like what you are getting? If not, are you willing to make adjustments?

• This is where we separate the men from the boys.
• Changing hard-wired body image issues takes hard work and doesn't happen overnight.
• We need to change from the inside out and from the outside in.  Mostly, we need to start the process of change.

5. Arguing with your partner about weight and body image diminishes the relationship.

• Address real concerns and move on.
• This is NOT a relationship issue.
• This is something each one of us decides for ourselves.

Comments

[Nicole]

Thank you for this article. I have struggled with body image issues most of my life, and it's only recently that I've gotten comfortable with how I look.

[Chandra Alexander]

Nicole - How wonderful for you that you feel comfortable in your skin. This is an on-going process that we often revisit when we forget what is really important. Remember, your body is simply the covering of your spirit and will continually change. Stay connected to that inner core and you will do fine with all the changes that come along.