How Not to Make the Same Mistake Twice

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October 05, 2009

How Not to Make the Same Mistake Twice

We all make mistakes; that is the process of living of life. But how many times do you need to make the same mistake? Time is moving along, so it is best to figure out how not to make the same mistake twice.

We all learn by making mistakes – this is the process of discovery.

It’s impossible to live a life and not make mistakes.
We learn more from our mistakes than we do from our failures. This is how we learn about ourselves.
Sometimes we enter through the back door; we learn what NOT to do.

You do not have to experience everything on the physical plane in order to “get it”.

Life is created from the inside out. That means that before something manifests on the physical plane, it is already created on the inside.
By the time it surfaces on the physical plane, it has speed and critical mass; in other words, a lot of energy is behind it.
So…if you feel uneasy and know things are happening that do not feel good to you, you can stop the forward momentum before the mistake manifests on the physical plane.

Do not rationalize or gather consensus for your mistakes – admit error and move on.

Often, when we have made a mistake, we have trouble admitting it, and our ego takes over.
We immediately gather consensus for our point of view and try to make ourselves right. This only prolongs the process and increases our anxiety.
Admitting when you have made a mistake is the smartest thing you can do. The minute you acknowledge your error, the energy begins to shift.

Only you really know if the same patterns keeping repeating themselves.

Be brutally honest with yourself. Is this just another variation of the “same” mistake?
In dysfunctional relationships, we often “pick” the same person with a different name.
Trust your instincts.

We learn what works by knowing what doesn’t work.

A road map tells you where to go and a boat map tells you where not to go.
When you know where “not to go”, you avoid making the same mistake twice.
There is nothing wrong with making mistakes if we learn from them.

Posted by Chandra Alexander on October 05, 2009 at 01:00 AM in How to Change | Permalink

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What a great statement. “Often, when we have made a mistake, we have trouble admitting it, and our ego takes over. We immediately gather consensus for our point of view and try to make ourselves right. This only prolongs the process and increases our anxiety.”

When the same mistake filled patterns keep showing up (item 4.), it is probably because the person did not admit the mistake and followed the ego boosting consensus program. (item 3.)

Usually if you admit them as described in 3, you will not have to contend with 4.

Posted by: Bill Dueease | May 17, 2008 at 03:23 PM

Hi Bill: Thanks for taking the time to make a comment. I had a chance to take a look at your website - great job! It's taken me awhile, but I actually celebrate making mistakes. It may seem obvious, but how else can we learn?

Posted by: Chandra | May 18, 2008 at 02:23 PM