I've had one friend for forty years, several for thirty years and a few for 20 years. I gave up acquaintances a long time ago. It's not really that I gave them up, it's just that I don't plan to get together with them anytime soon. If I'm out and about and I run into them, I enjoy the interaction, but that's about it.
I guess that's because connecting is what it's all about for me. I enjoy hanging out with people who really like themselves and feel comfortable in their own skin. This means I get to be totally myself. I delight in my friends' quirkiness and I guess they delight in mine.
Healthy people enjoy the differences and connect beneath the surface. The connection creates a safe place to grow and flourish and make mistakes. It is a place where you can be silly, loose your self-consciousness, take down the boundaries that separate you from another. Good connections make you feel loving and that love is good for the world.
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