Are you being cheated on? If you’re having trouble leaving a destructive relationship even though you know your partner is cheating on you, learn why being brutally honest with yourself is your first priority.
- Cheating is not really about sex – it is a betrayal of love, of friendship.
- We often think of cheating as a sexual issue but it is really a character issue. This is why it is so hurtful. There is a basic unkindness to only thinking about yourself and what you want, a betrayal of the bonds of friendship.
- Even if you have grown apart over the years, your partner has as much right as you to make decisions based on accurate information.
- If you no longer want to be in a monogamous relationship, are not getting your needs met for whatever reason, you are obligated to tell the other person. This is the decent and right thing to do.
- Has your partner accepted complete responsibility for this? – If not, leave.
- There are NO excuses for cheating. Even if you have been is a “sexless” relationship for a long time, talked to your mate about this, and still nothing has changed – it is still not okay to cheat.
- The only possibility to heal a “cheating” relationship is when the person who has cheated accepts full responsibility, with NO EXCUSES. Unless this happens, the lesson is never learned.
- You have to decide if you want to forgive. – Only then is healing possible.
- If you truly feel your partner is repentant, has learned the lesson, and this will never happen again.
- There is no way to move forward unless you find a soft spot in your heart where you can forgive.
- If you know you should leave and don’t – what are the payoffs?
- If you know the relationship is irretrievably broken and you stay anyway, because you are afraid to go, ask yourself if the payoffs are really worth it.
- Expect to be cheated on again.
- Taking care of your Self is the same as loving yourself.
- If you don’t love your Self, how can anyone else?
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