It is not easy to leave what is familiar – we have been doing this stuff for a long. Breaking from a dysfunction relationship requires courage and stick-to it-ness. To break from this pattern means you have decided to grow up. You are brave enough to leave the relationship that is not giving you what you want, knowing that it never will, and forge your way into the unknown.
We become strong and break and then we miss the familiar.
This is where we need to use our intellect – our rational mind. If we’re used to doing dumb stuff – that will feel normal and natural to us. If we fight all the time, being alone and being peaceful will seem weird at first – but if we can stick to our resolve – knowing it took a long time to have the courage to leave – we will be rewarded. As we refuse to feed our dysfunctional addiction, and stay steady with our decision, no matter what, slowly the compulsion begins to break and we feel different.
Some Methods for Breaking from a Dysfunctional Relationship
1. Write down everything – all abusive incidents – long hand
2. Have a buddy system with a best friend – this is breaking an addiction
3. If pushed or abused, retaliate in kind – police, legal, restraining order
4. Do not engage no matter what – no calls, no email, no text messages,no messages from friends, etc.
5. Remember how many times you have broken up and gone back and KNOW if you go back again you will just have to repeat this difficult process
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