You cannot think your way to authenticity – you must feel it. And in order to feel, the mind must be quiet. When the mind is quiet, the heart opens and finally we are able to sit squarely in the middle of our life, to feel it, rather than think about it.
If the mind never stops, you can never be authentic. When the mind is frantic, you hear all those voices in your head other than your own. To hear your own voice, to live your own life – not the life of your mother, your father, your partner, your boss – all the other voices have to stop. This is the process, the path to authenticity.
The more real you become the more potent your energy becomes; people pick it up; you radiate. A person’s energy is the vibration of their consciousness.
But being authentic takes work. It’s not just kicking back and saying “I’m’ just gonna be myself and I’m just gonna let it rip.”
The price of authenticity is awareness. And awareness is consciousness in action. Being conscious means you have to be willing to stay awake when often it’s a whole lot easier to go to sleep. This is big stuff and not for the weak at heart. A lot of folks talk the talk but how many walk the walk? To be true to your Self, at the deepest level, this is the work of a lifetime.
So…in the spirit of awareness these are some of the things you need to do in order to become more real and more consciousness:
1. Take responsibility for all of it – not just the parts you like.
· Here’s the deal. You can’t have it both ways. Either you create all of it or it’s all random. My experience is that we create it all. Taking your power back means stepping up and taking responsibility for all of it. No more excuses – no more victim consciousness.
· Just because we can’t see the linear cause and effect doesn’t mean there isn’t one. Things come to fruition on the physical plane in their own time. It is okay to want to know “why “something happened, but it is not necessary in order to accept it. The why may be important from an intellectual standpoint, but it nothing to do with accepting “what is”. My experience is that - if it happened to you – it belongs to you. The end. The bird ate the worm. We do not need to know why in order to accept it as reality.
· When you accept responsibility for all of your life – all of your life becomes your lesson, and each lesson moves you closer to your authentic Self. What happens to you in a life is specifically tailored to you – what you need to learn. Even though sometimes things may seem random, they are not, and are always connected to the larger whole in some way.
2. Bravery. You have to be brave. You have to invite the Demons in for Tea.
· What does this mean? Invite the demons in for tea. Each of us has a soft underbelly, a place that we not only hide from others, but more importantly hide from ourselves. You have to willing to bring what is in darkness to light. Actually, it’s coming up anyway.
· What’s dark naturally heads toward the light it just whether or not we’re part of the coming out process or we try to suppress it.
· Most people live a life with all their vulnerabilities hidden with the result that they are continually split off from a part of themselves, the part that they are ashamed of, and have trouble accepting.
· But accepting your soft underbelly makes you whole and makes you real. And there is no way to be authentic without going to those dark places.
· Those dark places include feeling “unlovable”, “unworthy”, ugly, insecure, scared. Places we would rather not go and avoid at any cost.
· But it is only in allowing those feelings to be – that is, feeling those feelings without getting attached to them – We feel them and observe them at the same time - that they are able to be felt and pass on through you. They actually pass on out once you feel them. And then you are no longer stuck in that place.
· So unless you are willing to feel what scares you – you will stay stuck and never be able to move on. Until you are willing to integrate the dark side with the light, you will never feel whole. Being an authentic whole person means both sides – the dark and light – have integrated and merged. Congratulations – you are a whole person.
· There is no one braver than a person who feels the anxiety of going to a dark place and goes there anyway. This is a brave person and someone who lives an authentic life. (to be continued)
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