Have you often said something cruel and hurtful to your partner that you wished you could take back, but instead of correcting it you just hoped it would go away on its own? If regretting your behavior is something that happens often, learn the healing art of the “Do Over”.
- Everything can be re-visited and nothing is set in stone.
- You need to immediately correct something hurtful.
- Whoever told us that once something is said, it is forever? Not true. It is only forever if you don't correct it.
- If you have not been clear, or if you have said something you want to change, now is the time for a re-do.
- Bad behavior, unless corrected, has bad consequences. It does not just go away.
- If you do not want the consequences of what you have said or done, now is the time to correct the behavior.
- It takes two seconds to correct bad behavior.
- Take the time or else the consequences will linger.
- A “Do Over” means you care enough to re-connect with your partner.
- Be vulnerable. Do it first.
- If you wait for the other person to do it first, you always lose.
- The emphasis needs to be on the connection and not on who is right.
- A “Do Over” means you take responsibility for your behavior.
- No defending your position.
- Be honest. Do you regret your behavior? If you could do it differently, would you?
- Have you alienated your partner rather than bring him closer?
- A “Do Over” means you care more about feeling right than being right.
- What is the point of being right if you do not have that connection?
- Real love is about putting your ego aside.
- This is an opportunity to do it fresh and clean.
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