HAPPY NEW YEAR

Are you stuck in a dead-end job or an unfulfilling relationship? If so, January 1^st is a perfect opportunity for a new beginning. How to get unstuck for the New Year:

1. STOP repeating the same story over and over again.

• And do something about it.
• Take a small step but do something different. If you keep doing the same things, you will get the same results.
• Are you bored with you story? Until you are bored hearing the same stuff over and over again, nothing will change and you will not do anything new to move in a new direction.

2.  RESIST telling friends and family your tale of woe to get consensus for your point of view.

• When you have a sense of peace and have dealt with your issues, you do not need others to agree with you.
• Feel what it feels like to “zip it.”
• Stop talking and feel your feelings rather than talking about them.

3. CATCH yourself starting every sentence with "Yes, but...." every time you get a suggestion to improve your situation.

• “Yes, but” is an excuse for not doing anything.
• Be honest. Are you really ready to make the necessary changes?
• Stop talking about your situation if you are not open to hearing suggestions for moving forward.

4. RECOGNIZE the same patterns even though the names and faces are different.

• We often change partners but in reality, nothing really changes.
• If you are always complaining about a lack of intimacy and all your relationships center around this issue, that means that you are merely changing partners rather than actually changing.
• Real change means that we choose differently.

5. FOCUS on the present, rather than the past and the future.

• If your situation in the present is dysfunctional, it will be that in the future as well if you do not do something about it.
• Remembering the past is wonderful for entertainment but has nothing to do with creating a good life in the present.
• Regardless of what happened in the past, all we have is the present moment to make good choices.