I am going to approach doing good business from a little bit different perspective. I am going to talk to you about the relationship you have with your mind and how the state of your mind affects every business decision you make. Unless you have a good mind you will never be able to succeed and keep growing your business. When I talk about business what I ultimately mean is making more and more money at what you do and feeling good while you’re doing it.
Being able to focus, to really listen, to be creative, to be open to new opportunities, to form solid and respectful relationships is an art, and unless the mind is strong and steady, you will always fall short of your goals. So….by entering this process through the back door, we are going to look at the foundation and underpinnings of what it takes to create good relationships and good business.
Personally, I have gone to many seminars over the years on time management, on improving corporate relationships, on being more productive and organized, etc. and I don’t think at this point there are too many more methods we can hear that we have not heard before. We come back from one of these talks, make another list and set another goal, and in truth we are no closer to improving our work situation and how we feel every day.
This is because for things to change we need to change the hard wiring. Each one of us is hard-wired. That means that because of our stuff – and each of us has stuff – after awhile, we are programmed to react certain ways. What this means is that we do most things on automatic and this automatic way is the way each one of us is hardwired. One button is pushed and that automatically takes us to the next button.
Have you ever just been going to one direction – either in work or a relationship, and something happens or someone says something, and all of a sudden, you’re upset? A button is pushed and that button may or may not have anything to do with what is actually going on at the moment. The next thing we do is lash out at the other person who is totally clueless as to what is going on, and yet for us it feels very real and very personal.
Now it’s okay to do things on automatic – if they work for you and make you feel good - but if they don’t work, you’d be foolish to keep doing things the same old way. …but this is precisely what most of us do.
So…the key is to change the underpinnings (the hard-wiring) not just slap some new method on the top. Because unless the underpinnings, the foundation of what we are doing changes, we will once again be sucked back into the old way of doing things. That’s because hardwiring has critical mass and momentum and will greatly outweigh anything we initially put on top of it. (to be continued).
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