Lack of Intimacy?

Do you complain about not having intimacy in your relationship yet you’re still not sure how to get it?  If you’ve been blaming your partner for the lack of closeness, it is important to learn why being intimate is always about you, not the other person.

1. If you can be intimate, you won’t stay long with someone who can’t.
   • Anyone who wants real intimacy will at some point, stop complaining, and leave a relationship that lacks intimacy.
   • Being intimate is ALWAYS about you; it represents your degree of openness.

2. You must be willing to self-disclose.
   • Unless you are willing to let another person in, you will never have intimacy.
   • Are you two thieves in the night?  Are you best friends? 
   • Intimacy is about trust.  Do you trust him with your vulnerabilities?

3. You cannot wait for the other person to do it first.  If you do, it will never happen.
   • This says it all!

4. You must be vulnerable to be intimate.
   • Are you able to share feelings that only you feel? 
   • This kind of intimacy comes from being open and real.
   • When are intimate with yourself – you know who you really are – only then can you be intimate with another.

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