Are you in a “sexless” relationship with a partner who does not see this as a problem? If you feel this is important to you, you need to talk to your partner about it now.
- Have you told your partner that this is a problem? It is your responsibility to speak up.
· Speaking up is the beginning and possibility of change. Unless you speak up there is no changing this situation.
· We are often afraid to say anything because instinctively we know that if we do, the status quo - as we know it - can never be the same.
- Stop rationalizing and pretending it is okay if it is not.
· There is nothing worse than pretending; it is a denial of the Self and all that it stands for. Pretending sends a message to the inner Self that says, “I am not worth it”.
- You are entitled to want sex and physical intimacy in your life even though your partner does not.
· It is always a mistake to deny your feelings. Regardless of the outcome, you are entitled to have this important component in your relationship.
· Physical intimacy is what makes your feel soft and open towards your partner. It is the feeling you need to have in order to want to “make-up”.
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· This is a very important point. No one can ignore your needs unless you ignore them. It is your job to take responsibility for the things you need and to make sure you are being heard and understood.
· If you keep saying the same thing and nothing changes, it is up to you to change the dynamic in the relationship.
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· If the answer is no, this means you need to set a boundary, i.e., a new course of action if nothing changes.
· Never give an ultimatum. An ultimatum is a threat. A boundary is not a threat, but simply a statement that says how you feel and what you need in order to go forward.
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Posted by: James | May 06, 2008 at 07:38 AM