Division of Labor Issues

How’s the division of labor in your house?  Did you both agree that you’d be a stay-at-home mom and now your husband tells you “You have it easy?”  Do you feel you do “everything” around the house and feel resentful because of it? Do you have a relationship where each partner brings something different but equal, or are you struggling for equality in your relationship?

1.      Did you both decide you would stay home and raise the children and he would have a job outside the house?

·        If you both decided on how you would divide the duties in your house, why are you now having these issues?

·        Just because a woman agrees to take care of the children does not mean she will take care of everything. And just because a man makes the money, does not mean that he is not part of taking care of the house and children.

·        Both partners do different jobs during the day, but at day’s end, both are parents and both are responsible for the life they have created.

·        Expressing gratitude for one another’s contribution is the key to a strong, healthy relationship. (Love, Honor and Thank - click here)

2.       Does your husband or partner tell you “You have it easy” and do you defend your position?

·        If you feel you are doing your job, never let anyone tell you that you have it easy; and never defend yourself.  When your partner says that to you, he is either being critical or resentful; he is not sharing his real feelings with you.

3.      Does the moneymaker have the power in your relationship?

·        It’s unfortunate but making money seems to often take precedence over doing good work.  Do not feel controlled because you do not make the money.  If you feel powerful in your position, you will not allow yourself to be diminished.

4.      Do you feel that what you do is as important as what your husband does?

·        You need to feel good about what you do.  If you feel your contribution is less than your husbands’s or feel you are afraid to work for a living, you will always be in a one down position.  Knowing you can take care of yourself, gives you the power to do whatever you want and feel good about it. 

·        Remember, no one can ever make you feel less about yourself unless you feel that way already.

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